Young love
David ‘Pete’ Peterson and Julia Smethurst had known each other most of their lives. At school, they and their friends socialised as one large group, but as they grew older, they began to pair off and develop closer, more intimate friendships.
Inevitably, some relationships foundered on the rocks of jealousy, misunderstanding, immaturity, and incomprehension. Pete and Julia had a few arguments, but recognised that their desire to be together was strong enough to overcome their problems. They prided themselves on being able to retain their individuality and not become each other’s shadow. They knew their own minds, were confident and happy and respected each other.
As the end of their school days beckoned, they made plans for the future. They were too young to settle down and each had careers to make. They were fulfilling their long-held desires, or at least, making the first steps. Pete wanted to become an RAF officer, and Julia was determined to become a teacher. They were clear-sighted and ambitious and faced the future with optimism.
The night before they set off for their separate lives they realised how much they would miss each other. To this point, their social lives had revolved around school, family, and friends, though they had also pursued separate hobbies and interests. Now, they were going somewhere quite alien, where they knew no-one. The next few years would be consumed with new challenges, in training, and in professional interactions.
If it felt a little daunting, neither of them admitted it, telling themselves that nothing fundamental would change. There would be holidays, and they would learn from each other’s experiences and grow stronger together.
The Christmas after their first term was a heady, exciting time. Pete and Julia were overjoyed to be together again after weeks apart. Nothing had changed, though there were some expectations about how they should behave. Pete had to observe a certain dress code, while Julia’s lecturers encouraged all the students to treat them with casual respect and address them by their given names. They agreed that it was quite different to school days, and so it should be – they were young adults, now.
On Christmas Eve, Pete proposed to a flustered and overwhelmed Julia. They would not be able to marry for a few years, he stressed, but she understood and was happy to develop her own career in the meantime.
Their friends and families were excited for them and there was much back-slapping and hugging. Pete had to return to Cranwell before Julia’s vacation finished but they were already making plans for his next leave.
When next they met, Julia noticed a certain reserve in Pete’s manner, and a change in the way he spoke. His local accent was still apparent, but he used fewer dialect expressions. When she asked him about it, he explained that everyone’s delivery was changing subtly. As officers they had to make sure they could be understood by everyone, particularly when issuing orders.
The Jocks and the Geordies, the Welsh, and the Irish, the Eastenders and the East Anglians, all had to modify their speech. It was mainly a case of clear articulation, and not swallowing their words. Julia nodded. She had needed to adjust the way she spoke, too, so understood. Once or twice, she had used phrases which caused puzzlement and had had to explain what she meant.
She was surprised, the next time they met, when he asked her to stop calling him Pete and use his given name of David, as that was how he was known in his new life. Reluctantly, she agreed, but had misgivings about the way he was changing. She had met many of his new friends, and liked them, but he seemed overly impressed by some of the more privileged among them, though she could not understand why. She began to suspect that he was becoming ashamed of his humble origins, even though many of his new friends came from similar backgrounds. The misconception that they were all ‘toffs’ was laughable.
Later, when he started advising her how she should dress and what she should say when meeting his superiors, she realised that the boy she had known and fallen in love with was becoming an insufferable snob. She returned his ring and wished him well in his future, though privately she thought his progress would be blighted by his lack of confidence and self-awareness.
If Julia was bitter, she tried not to show it, but she made no effort to maintain contact with her old college friends once they had all graduated and taken up their new posts. They were left to wonder, and to hope that she would find happiness and fulfilment.
This short story is based on an erstwhile friend of mine. It’s fair to say that her heart was broken, but not her spirit. I never did discover what became of her, or ‘Pete.’
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I enjoyed reading this Janice - thank you. Oddly enough, it is kind of similar to a friend of mine, from school days. The same thing happened to her although her "man" did not join the forces, rather he went on to do a fancy science degree - which definitely gave him an entitled sense of self belief & made him much "grander" than us mere mortals that he went to school with.
ReplyDeleteYet others take similar paths and still retain their basic character and attitudes.
DeleteSometimes growth takes us in different directions, and that’s okay.
ReplyDeleteIt's okay so long as no-one is hurt in the process.
DeleteI found young love to be fleeting, but old love is there for the long haul.
ReplyDeleteSometimes, if you're lucky, young love develops into old, long-standing love.
DeleteI can just about remember what young love used to be :)
ReplyDeleteLOL!
DeleteThere are lifelong sweethearts, but I think from young teenage years would be rather unusual. My lodgers knew each other as young teenages and they are a couple. Will it last? I hope so. I did read of a couple who were playmates before they attended school, became a couple in their teenage years and are still together many years later.
ReplyDeleteIt's unusual for very young love to last - 13 and 14-year-olds, for example, though I know one such couple. With older teenagers and young twenties it can last. With Phyllis and Kosov, who knows? I hope they can navigate life together.
DeleteYou start with Pete and Julia, then in the second paragraph you have Pete and Ellen.
ReplyDeleteIt is sad when a person changes so much and tries to make you change also, to the point where you must break away.
Thank you for pointing out the name change - I've changed it now. 😊
DeleteI think there many of us who find this story sadly familiar.
ReplyDeleteI suppose it's all part of growing up - sad, though.
DeleteA good story and I think Julia made the right decision. It's best to break something off earlier rather than later if you don't like what you're seeing
ReplyDeleteIt's hard to give up your dreams but I hope she was happier in the long run.
DeleteAlas a development not all that uncommon, I think... Several friends from my youth who got married young separated later in life. But not always easy to predict which relationships will last and which won't!
ReplyDeleteIt's impossible to predict and sometimes circumstances change so drastically that a split becomes inevitable.
DeleteIt's clear her heartache shaped her, but not diminished her, and one can only hope she found the peace and strength she so deeply deserved
ReplyDeleteI hope they both did, though I feel, unfairly perhaps, that she deserved it more than he did.
ReplyDeleteI see you made an edit from the Feedly version of the post that I read. It was Ellen in paragraph 2. I was going to as you about it. It’s odd because I don’t usually notice details. I like the narrative.
ReplyDeleteRiver pointed it out, so I changed it.
DeletePeople change, but they should never try to change you.
ReplyDeleteAccept the people around you as they are, or go elsewhere.
DeleteI had one of those romances through uni. Julia's much better off without the Idiot.
ReplyDeleteIt's not a nice lesson to learn.
DeleteMistakenly, at first I thought that you were Julia and Pete/David was Barry.
ReplyDeleteNo, no - we've known each other a very long time, but never went to school together.
DeleteThis is such a poignant story about growing apart. I really connected with the part where Julia notices Pete's "certain reserve" and the subtle changes in his speech, asking her to call him David. It perfectly captures that uneasy feeling when someone you know so well starts changing in ways that feel inauthentic, especially when it seems like they're trying to shed their past. It’s sad to see how that kind of personal insecurity can completely unravel a relationship that started with so much genuine connection and respect.
ReplyDeletePeople don't always change for the better.
DeletePeople change -Christine cmlk79.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteThey do - and it's better to find out sooner rather than later.
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