Nostalgia
L.P. Hartley
opened his 1953 novel, ‘The Go-Between’ with the words, ‘The past is a foreign
country; they do things differently there.’ Set in the late Edwardian period, the
book explored the differences in moral, class, and sexual attitudes and those
of the mid-20th century.
The past
may indeed be a different country, for the memories we hold are not always
accurate. They are coloured by what has happened in the time since, and
sometimes they are not personal memories but acquired from others through their
repetition of recollections.
Recently,
I have found several blog writers exploring and remembering the past. Whether
it was books, or food, or friends, or games, each memory was recounted with
pleasure, with nostalgia.
Nostalgia
is usually defined as a longing for the past. It is compiled from two Greek
words, nóstos meaning homecoming, and álgos meaning grief. It was
first used in 1688 to describe the intense homesickness afflicting Swiss mercenaries
fighting far from home. So seriously was it taken that it was regarded as an
illness requiring treatment.
It has
since developed into a description of the emotion many experience as a wistful
affection for the past. The reminiscences may be melancholic, but often they
are pleasant. Nostalgia is mistakenly believed to be the province solely of older
generations, but I have heard young children saying, ‘Do you remember?’ and
recounting events inspired by a song, a film, a photograph.
The past
was a different country, a different time, when the future beckoned and life
was an unknown mystery to be unravelled. It was not always a golden time, and
for some it may have been painful, but in retrospect it seemed simpler and more
enjoyable. Pleasurable experiences overcome and overwhelm those which are
sadder, I find.
My infant
school days are hazy. Mainly I remember learning to read, looking at the final
pages of a book and wondering if I would ever be able to read them, and the
older boys in the playground peeing over the wall, vying with each other to
reach the greatest height.
At Junior
school, I remember playing two balls against the wall, skipping games,
collecting things, ‘pax,’ chase, a tin of cocoa powder and sugar to dip a finger
into. I remember a teacher who had a clear favourite (and it wasn’t me!)
and another gentle teacher who had time for everyone. I remember the outside
lavatories, which for some unknown reason were called ‘the offices’ and they
seem wrapped in a hazy mist of fond memory though in reality they were freezing
cold in the winter and smelly in the summer. Older girls (only girls in this
school) were allowed to make tea for the teachers. Health and Safety would
be appalled at the thought now.
Books
were precious gifts to be devoured, ears deaf to the outside world. On reaching
the end, I would start again at the beginning – Black Beauty, What Katy Did,
Anne of Green Gables, Heidi, My Friend Flicka, The Wind in the Willows, The
Water Babies, Winnie-the-Pooh, Alice in Wonderland, The Little Prince, and so
many more – they opened my eyes and my heart to a wider world. Today’s children’s
classics would be rather different, I think and would include authors like
Michael Morpurgo, Lynne Reid Banks, Jacqueline Wilson, Joan Aiken, Roald Dahl,
Jill Murphy, among others.
Food was
important, of course. Roast on Sunday, mince on Monday, cottage pie on Tuesday,
semolina pudding, sometimes with jam, crumpets on a toasting fork in front of the fire, chicken once a year at Christmas (and later,
at Easter), to be pulled and plucked before cooking.
Cold sheets
in winter, shivering with my feet tucked up in my nightdress, to wake to Jack
Frost’s artistry on the inside of the window. Hot, sticky summer nights,
shoulders sore from a day at the beach. Long days walking in the countryside on
my own, picking wild strawberries or damsons, or swimming at the open-air baths,
eating bread and butter sandwiches with crisps when I was hungry.
Grammar
school brought different experiences and the dawning realisation that not
everyone was pleasant and kindly disposed. Dealing with spiteful pubescent
girls, finding my way through friendships, learning who to trust. Adolescence
is a lonely time for most young people, I think.
I would not go back, even if that were possible.
I look at the younger people I know and wish them strength of will, persistence,
self-belief, and happiness.
L.P. Hartley's
friend Lord David Cecil used the phrase, ‘The past is a foreign
country’ in 1949 in his introductory lecture as Goldsmith's Professor of
English Literature at Oxford. That may have been the inspiration for the title of his book.