Mantra
We have long been advocates of mantras, not for religious reasons, but to help us feel we are a little more in control.
The morning mantra used to be, ‘Keys, wallet, briefcase, ‘phone,’ as the man of the house left for work. The woman of the house didn’t need a mantra. It was her job to make sure that each child left the house properly dressed, thoroughly fed and on time, before closing the door securely and making her own way to work. After she had repeated, ‘Have you got. . . ? Have you remembered . . .?’ umpteen times, there was little chance of her forgetting what she needed for the day ahead.
Now, in the peaceful days of our non-working lives, the mantra has changed. As we prepare to leave the house with dogs in tow, for a hearty jaunt in the woods, the chant is, ‘Keys, hat, sunglasses, camera, walking poles, leads, remote control.’
Remote control?
Our dogs are smartly dressed in orange tracker collars, which they wear alongside the collars with their identity tags. Coming out?The remote control is not intended to control the dogs, but to identify where they are, should they decide to follow a path of their own choosing. It is possible to monitor thirty dogs with the device, so is more than sufficient for our two. We have only ever walked seven dogs at a time, four of ours and three of our daughter’s, but that was a long time ago, when there were fewer people out walking dogs.
We know how far each dog has travelled, and also the distance the humans have covered. They cover approximately twice the distance of the people. Satellite imagery presents a clear map to show the terrain and to help plan a route, if required.
It’s interesting to use the tracker, but also comforting. In all our decades of having dogs, we’ve lost three. One, a little Jack Russell, found her way home late at night. Her brother, on another occasion, was knocked down but died after a few days with the vet. He was a strong dog, but the shock was too much for him. The third one, my Velcro dog, emerged from the carcase of a deer, in which he had been feasting. He had become a black, white and red Dalmatian.
So, we have the trackers for our peace of mind (or piece of mind!!) It’s about time children were fitted with trackers, too, though I gather iPhones can be tracked. I know I wouldn’t have liked to have been so easily traced, but maybe things are different now.
Given the opportunity, I would have hidden inside my children’s heads to understand them. As it was, I had to rely on the information they gave me to know where they were and with whom. We all survived, and it’s been interesting watching them navigate the perilous waters of parenthood. Parenting at one or two removes is so much more relaxing!
Oh that's interesting.
ReplyDeleteMy mantra is Let it Go - it not only applies to decluttering but also just things that in life make me anxious or upset.
That's a good one!
DeleteOh yes the mantras- "inhale ,exhale" "never mind"...My new favorite is "will it matter in a hundred years". That is a great idea to have trackers, everyone should have one, just incase. Dog and little kids especially. I love the fashion- blue with bees, tres chic!
ReplyDeleteI use 'Does it matter in the grand scheme of things?' far too often.
DeleteInteresting look at control here. Technology has provided a few methods of control. In the 70's , my kids were free range. They still comment about how fortunate they were to be able have the freedom to play.
ReplyDeleteI agree. It is regrettable that parents don't feel comfortable allowing their children the freedom to be independent.
DeleteI sure like your header photos...another gorgeous purple flower...Makes me smile when I open your post. The trackers are very neat and what a neat way to keep up with your pets. I might need to get one for Sam...lol My most used mantra right now is 'Just Breath" and "You've got this"
ReplyDeleteIt seems that everyone has a mantra of some sort.
DeleteA remote control for dogs? Well, I never ... though I bet it does come in handy.
ReplyDeleteI hope we never have to use it to find the dogs. They stick pretty closely to us, though.
DeleteWe never had morning mantras, we did ours in the evenings as the children packed their bags ready for school in the mornings and I prepared whatever I needed for the next day. Then each morning we just had to add pre-made lunches from the fridge and get out the door.
ReplyDeleteVery wise!
DeleteI've seen those trackers for dogs advertised, gives peace of mind as losing a dog is horrible.
ReplyDeleteIt's a sickening feeling to lose/misplace a dog and more especially a child.
DeleteI know this isn't a mantra in the same way, but in 1960 I learned the Great Canadian Lakes in order and have never forgotten them since.
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Superior, Michigan, Huron, Erie and Ontario
Ooh, I must remember that one. It's like the mantra for the colours of the rainbow - Richard Of York Gave Battle In Vain - not much good to anyone who's not a Brit, though.
DeleteI remember those days so well. You knew their school timetable better than they did so you could remind them of PE kit, homework due in that day etc etc. I don't miss those hectic morning rituals one little bit.
ReplyDeleteNeither do I!
DeleteOnce the children were at secondary school I stuck a schedule on the inside of the front door for each child... lunch, PE kit, violin. After that it was up to them... I wish we had been able to put a tracker on our cats. One just disappeared. Another got picked up as a stray by a neighbour
ReplyDelete(He was ancient and skinny and more than a bit senile) and taken to an animal shelter but we got him back when they realised what had happened!
It's sad when cats disappear. I know they can look after themselves better than dogs, but not knowing what happened is awful.
DeleteYour solution for your children was a good one.
You forgot toilet , it's the last thing we do before leaving the house. Our neighbour has a collar for her cat, she spends more time tracking it to where it's come off, it seams a nice way to meet your neighbours.
ReplyDeleteI love the idea of meeting your neighbours through your cat's collar! 🤣😂
DeleteI could do with a tracker for P. I can never find him when I need to. I'm sure he hides from me 😄
ReplyDeleteDon't they all?
DeleteThis year's mantra is "let them" about things I can't control but seem to think I should worry about anyway. I'm getting the hang of it.
ReplyDeleteLearning not to worry about things beyond our control is a lifelong exercise.
DeleteYour reflections are both touching and delightfully humorous. A testament to how the rhythms of daily life, whether through old mantras or modern gadgets, evolve with us, offering new forms of connection and comfort
ReplyDeleteNothing remains the same, ever.
DeleteFunny how your daily mantra includes more items now that you no longer go to work. It seems like it should be the other way around.
ReplyDeleteThat tracker would be awesome.
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ReplyDeleteWe're getting crabbier as we get older! 🤣😂
DeleteThose trackers look very useful, something we should consider for our dogs.
ReplyDeleteI love a mantra, they are good at helping calm and focus thoughts when I'm in a tiz!
Alison in Wales x
Perhaps we should all practise yoga!
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ReplyDeleteYou are of a certain age and I am impressed by how you are both so connected to technology.
ReplyDeleteYou obviously live in an area where dogs can run free. They need to be on leashes where I am. The exception would be the two dog parks in town. Our cat has a mantra, “Feed me,” and that seems to be the eonly one that I need.
ReplyDelete'Feed me' is a good one, as in 'Little Shop of Horrors.'
DeleteWe walk our dogs in the local woods/forest - plenty of room and not many other people, despite the housing estates around us.
The tracking system could also be used with senior citizens when they begin to show signs of dementia - obviously not something that applies to you and Barry - not yet anyway!
ReplyDeleteThere are days when a personal tracking device would be useful . . . oh, wait, that's a 'phone.
ReplyDeleteHere's to our mantras!
ReplyDeleteCheers!
DeleteThe balance of love, care, and gentle reflection on parenting and pet life really shines through. Thank you for sharing this journey
ReplyDeleteThank you.
ReplyDeleteThat tracker sounds like a brilliant idea, especially for Toby, not just in case he gets he gets lost but to find out exactly how many miles he covers.
ReplyDeleteHusband can track me on my phone.
It's quite illuminating to see just how far they go.
DeleteIt would have been fun to have one of these when I walked Olga long distances, back in the day. She was pretty much always within view, but sometimes she'd run a long way ahead or off to the side.
ReplyDeleteI lost one of ours for 40 minutes once. She had chased a deer. That was when she was a Labrador among Dalmatians. Once we had other Labradors, she stayed with them.
DeleteWow, that's practical, sort of "Big Brother is watching you". I wished everybody could by such a collar, there would be less lost animals ! Here now it's the law also for cats to have them chipped. Before it was only for dogs.
ReplyDeleteIt's the same here.
DeleteWe do have similar mantras, although it's mainly me who is using them. My husband would benefit from a remote control to track his phone, keys, Etc. :-)
ReplyDeleteI'd never heard of remote controlled tracker collars for dogs, but what a clever invention! xxx
It is a good idea.
DeleteI had already been looking at trackers to put on Bob, but now that is on the back burner, since he can't walk. I did not know about these trackers. we live in the city and there is a leash law, way to many dogs here to have them running free. that said, its a great idea. and they look spiffy too
ReplyDeleteWe never see stray dogs in this area. A dog without its owner is a lost dog and someone kind will always take it in and trace its owner, but it rarely happens.
DeleteNo need for trackers for our two cats. They may hide under a bed or behind a chair but they'll definitely show themselves when they hear the cat food can being opened. They are not allowed into the outside world to create havoc or get into trouble.
ReplyDeleteWe gave our cats the freedom of the garden a few years ago. It's fully enclosed, so they can't escape into the wider world. Generally, they haven't created too much carnage . . .
DeleteI have seen this type of tracker for dogs advertised, they must give peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteAll the best Jan
They are very useful.
DeleteOur dog has one of those collars. We used it when she was a pup, but she's older now and never trails far from us. Nothing wrong with a little peace of mind!
ReplyDeleteThe one time you leave it off is the one time she will wander . . . sod's law.
DeleteTracker collars for the dogs is such a good idea.
ReplyDeleteVery useful for people who hunt seriously - not many of those round here!
DeleteI had no idea there were trackers for dogs.
ReplyDeleteYou can't ask for the wrong thing. No matter what you may imagine, you can be sure that someone, somewhere, will have invented it! 😎
DeleteI think our family mantra will always be 'Have you locked the car door, Dad'. I like the idea of the tracker. I can think of a number of humans I could use them on as we don't have pets.
ReplyDeleteThere are trackers for keys - Barry has one and it's quite useful.
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